Wants....Needs....Desires....are these the same or are they completely different? For instance:
- I desperately want my mother to be well again, living in her own home and not in a Nursing Home
- I desperately need employment, 15 months is way too long to have to depend on the State, the kindness of family and an odd job here or there to survive
- I desperately desire some sense of normalcy to my life
Are these pipe dreams, a type of pie-in-the sky/waiting for my ship to come in wishes? Maybe yes and then maybe no. I am intelligent enough to know that I am not the only person in the universe suffering from stress, pressure and an occasional bout of depression. But what really hurts are the people who promised to help me, stick by me, be there for me when I needed them who have quickly vanished from my life. Why? What did I do to drive them away?
I can only look deep inside myself to discover that I kept my part of the friendship or the arrangement or whatever name you want to attach to the situation.....I was mistress, confidant, co-worker....then solitary survivor......
One thing I have learned in the past 2 years is that it is o.k. to say "no, I don't want to go" or "no I don't want to do that" or "no I am not going to do that"......I have also learned that I will not be controlled by anyone any more, even if that means I want white lights on my Christmas tree and not multi-colored ones, after all it is MY tree.....
So, how does it feel to want? Does it give you an empty feeling inside, hmmmm??
So how many true friends do you have left? Not many I bet, might want to check your mouth and attitude.
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteFirst,
Attitude: a complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings and values and dispositions to act in certain ways. In case you were not aware, you cannot check a mental state, specifically your own.
Second, your remark is grammatically incorrect. After “I bet,” you should include “you”. A good rule of thumb is to insult someone with immaculate grammar.
Third, cut the crap! I know that you do not have the courage to put your name on your comment; you’re too pitiable for that. Pam's personality is charming, unlike yours. She is kind to everyone. Kind, until people begin playing off of her kindness. Worry about your life before you attempt intervention in others’, because your personality screams for guidance.
So, the next times you decide to criticize someone’s attitude make sure you don’t have a horrible attitude problem yourself. I am sorry for any humiliation, but some people just aren’t as intelligent as others. So, Pam and I will continue to enjoy girl’s days out, which do not include Ms Debbie Downer.
Kay-Thanks,
Have a wonderful day!
Samantha